This post may seem politicaly based, but I decided to post it here due to the religious motivations behind the law being discussed in this linked blog.
This is a story about something called Covenant Marriage, a type of legal marriage began as an attempt to stem divorce rates, begun in Lousiana, but now available in several states. My purpose in writing about it is to illustrate the ways in which conservatives apply a double standard when it suits them.
You can follow te link at the bottom to the full story. I have pulled out some stuff, and it is displayed as quoted text, and the rest are my comments/text.
The Definition of Marriage may not be re-defined!
The first line of attack towards same-sex marriage is that it would be redefining marriage, as if the definition of marriage has never been re-defined. Covenant Marriage is one example of a redefinition of marriage. While it remains a marriage between a man and a woman, it is still a different definition and type of marraige. If there can already be 2 types of marriage with 2 different sets of rules or qualities how would adding another destroy the definition of marriage?
The definition of marriage is biblical and may not be altered!
There are 2 sets of scripture often used to justify marriage as between a man and a woman. Adam and Eve as the original husband and wife (even though I’m not sure the Bible ever says they were married), and the words of Jesus. Jesus was actually talking abot divorce, and the passage ends with te idea that who God has joined no one may tear apart. Interestingly, even though the Bible says there can be no divorce, Covenant Marriage allows for divorce.
Ending a marriage is still possible, though no-fault divorce is eliminated, and grounds for divorce are limited. They include physical or sexual abuse (of either a spouse or child), infidelity, a felony conviction or abandonment.
Note, that sexual abuse is an acceptable reason for divorce, and yet rape is not an acceptable reason for abortion (according to some such as Governor Jindal of Louisiana). where conservatives draw the lines varies even where the Bibler does not. Why must the Bible be followed literally at times and at others it can be modified?
Don’t use the government to advance social change!
When legislation is advanced that gives GLBT people more rights, it is attacked as an attempt to force social change upon people- or blamed on activist judges. Covenant Marriage was developed by a professor at a law school and a congress person. The purpose? To advance a social agenda.
…an attempt to strengthen the family and protect children.
Critics called it a potentially dangerous injection of religious belief into a civil commitment…
The sky will fall!
Conservatives have a very hard time predicting the results. They are sure that if same-sex couples can marry, that all hell will break loose. They were also sure that Covenant Marriage would take off big time, and it has totally not happened. It hasn’t done what it set out to do, and has not been embraced by the american people, even in some of the most religious states.
Then-Rep. Tony Perkins, R-Baker, predicted, â€œI think in about a year a majority of couples will make it [covenancy] part of their marriage plans.â€ Today, nearly 12 years later, the total has edged closer to 2 percent. Nor has covenant marriage reduced general divorce rates. In 1997, when covenant marriage became law, 13,836 divorces were granted in Louisiana. In 2003 (the most recent year for which statistics are available), the divorce total was 15,230.
Gays want special rights!
â€œLouisiana has elected to confer special benefits on covenant marriages, such as a 10 percent cut in auto insurance rates,â€ wrote Pat Buchanan…
So it is OK to provide special benefits to some but not others. How hyocritical is that?
Being gay is a choice!
If gays can marry, then there will be no limits, anything goes!
According to our opponents, being gay is a choice and therefor, we do not deserve to be a protected class. But the truth is, choice makes a difference. Straight couples who chose Covenant Marriage, had a lower divorce rate. These are couples who actively chose to define their relationship as special and more than just being together.
Though covenant marriage has had little effect on divorce as a whole, those who opt for it do have lower divorce rates.
But so many of the gay and lesbian couples seeking marriage are already in a committed relationship. They are chosing to define their relationship as more than just being together.
For gay and lesbians don’t mean it! They are only doing it for the show!
…then-Gov. Mike Huckabee Ââ€” who, though he was an ordained Baptist minister, did not â€œupgradeâ€ his own marriage at the time. And Bush and his wife Laura chose not to upgrade their own. Later, Huckabee did in a very public way. Columnist Margaret Carlson saw the $65,000 spectacle as a political ploy: â€œIf moral values helped President Bush win the White House, why not Gov. Huckabee?
Don’t force tour ways on the American people!
Though the 2008 Republican Party platform made no mention of covenant marriage, the Texas GOP platform called for it, along with the complete abolishment of no-fault divorce, as well as making it a felony to issue a marriage license to a same-sex couple Ââ€” this despite the fact that during the 2007 Texas legislative session, a proposed covenant marriage bill failed to clear the state house.
Covenant Marriage is an idea that some want to push on the American people, who have shown that it is not their choice. And even though it has been shown not to create the desired results, andhas not been embraced, even in religious states, conservatives don’t give up.
But Perkins says he has not given up. â€œWhen the Jindal administration gets through some of these challenging times,â€ he says, â€œI hope theyâ€™ll focus on some of these family laws.â€